Sis, you feel as though there is a double standard cause there is a double standard. You know how some ones are lefthanded n others are righthanded (when dem write)? Gwan n mek a lefty write with dem right hand n watch how messy the letterin is n how dem hand cramp up so. Same way with mono n poly. Some ones need one king/queen n some ones need more than one. InI haffi know Iselves n no hide. If you really are mono n your king is poly then some talk need fi gwan so you don't end up feelin hurt/neglected/abused.