I'm not sure I'm hearing you clearly, but if I am...I believe we all have emotional responses to things. There are times when we feel fear, or jealousy, anger or hate. These emotions are based on our base or carnal self. Sometimes they are uncontrolable, or at least, they arise without conscious thought. Our reaction to them however is where the choice comes in. When someone does us wrong, it is often the first inclination to seek revenge. However, if we are trying to evolve spriritually, one must think first. There are times when revenge would bring the most immediate satisfaction or gratification, however, if one believes in karma at all, we would then be performing a disservice to ourselves. I agree that the more one comes to understand that unity is not equal to weakness or giving up on one's self, the more likely they are to "choose" it. Tell me what you think.