Been thinking about this:
Firstly in the abusive situation the sistren was right. In this case there is very little room for men even those in authority like police, judges, even brothers.
It is most importantly a situation governed solely by the betrayal of trust, by the misuse and abuse of power. As men are the main perpetrators, even if you are one of the two out of three who aren't abusers you are still a visible link and a possible one out of three.
There is no place for you unless you are asked in to help with specific skills needed to deal with a volotile situation and are trusted implicitly.
As for this "white feminism propaganda- feminine side" rubbish it has set up a horribly confused state for men. They, the good guys, feel the erosion of their masculinity and disempowerment...yes?
I am female so I don't really know.
Yes men should always be nurturing, supportive, compassionate, protective, loving, kind, gentle, and these qualities only enhance their masculinity.
Don't be put off as there is a time and place it just was not yours in that situation...betrayal of trust...no matter what is said by feminism most men are physically stronger than most women.
Again in situations of abuse men, the good guys, sometimes come blustering in, pick up the baseball bat, and threaten revenge...more violence. If you are asked to intervene that is another matter.
Now with female police, counsellors, judges, it has thankfully become "Women's business" with less avenues for further betrayal.
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