Greetings Rob
Let I raspond to a couple of your points.

"i think that the perspective here should be in no one's perspective , but an objective reality . something that is , no matter what we or others may call it .
good for i is an objective thing , not a sobjetive one /
like evil . "

Well if there is no perspective or no reference point, they how will one be able to define the thing? How will one know which is which?

If good is done to someone, then it is subjective to that person.

Likewise with bad.

Good and bad are subjective. It comes from the thoughts of man.

"with this i mean , that when one thing is evil , is evil from every angle you look at it , and for everybody , even if not everybody is able or want to define such thing for what it is . "

Tell I something that is bad from every angle.

"many would call hate what you may call love ...
but does that change the essence of that thing ?
either it is love or hate ."

How would u know the essence of the thing?

InI mind defines things by how InI were taught.

Have u ever heard the phrase, "it is a thin line between love and hate? That thin line to I is indifference...non partiality

"if ones raise his children only out of love , there is not a balance ...there is a supremacy , but still hate/evil is hidin under the grass ,
i cannot site that love as a balance between the two ( right now ) , otherwise why when a likkle piece of hate enter into the love's gates , this one is so willin to pull it out , to fight back this little piece of evil with all his force?"

Love is not a balance between hate and evil. Love and hate are dualities.

Even in bad times, good can forward from it.

What doesnt kill u, makes you stronger.

The foundation of a lie is the truth. It is an attempt to hide the truth.

InI all have to find the unity of the two extremes. I know that things that happens in this world make it hard to do so because InI minds have been shaped to think dualistically.

Focus and realeyes the power of the trinity (temperance of the dualities, where there just is).

Peace

I will post something about equanimity for u, if I can find it in my tru-brary.