Hi Heather,
found your words in my inbox, but the thread has gone and i don't have your adress. Well, i'll write here:
i might not understand most of what you wrote due to my limitd english. don't even know what 'breaking down' means. Any resistance a most welcome chance to learn though.
Also remember that i had felt strange when all that critizism showerded on you. Felt something like when non-US people said: ''they deserve it' when the WTC went down, but at the same time felt sorry for the individual affected...
wish you happiness,
kuuan